Woman devastated when boyfriend met ex on stag night – and hid it from her
The woman was “very angry” when she found out her boyfriend’s ex-partner had been invited to a stag do she attended – and tried to keep it a secret.
Traditionally, stag and hen parties are held in the days leading up to the wedding, and usually a group of mates hit the town for several drinks – with a reputation for things getting wildly out of hand.
But a woman was furious with her boyfriend after he went out on a stag do because he didn’t tell her his ex-girlfriend was invited with them.
The woman explained that her boyfriend had gone out on Saturday, leaving her at home with their children, and only told her on Monday that two girls, including her ex-partner, had attended the stag night – five days after she was first told she had been invited. on Thursday.
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman said: “After my partner fucked me, I realized that two girls [invited]… girls he knows well, even with whom he was with for a while when he was much younger – ex.
“They’re all mates from sixth form college 20 years ago. Somehow they’re still very ‘close’ because they really like to hang out and ‘party’ (he doesn’t, but his mates do). Even though I live in the same town, I’ve never I didn’t get to know the girls, I admit, maybe I wasn’t even really interested in part.
“I’m very angry about this… my partner didn’t want to tell me they were involved, he knew before but didn’t tell me.”
The mom admitted that her boyfriend didn’t plan the event, so she didn’t know her ex had been invited until the Thursday before the big night, but she’s still upset that she wasn’t invited with them — especially since there were other women in attendance.
She added: “I can never spend an entire Saturday with him without the kids anyway… and yet behind my back he was doing exactly that with his ex. Going from fun activity to fun activity as they merrily crashed (they’re totally wasted).
“He didn’t plan it – but his BFF did. Thanks, mate!
“My partner knew that these girls would be there at least since Thursday. If girls are invited, why wasn’t I invited? I’ve been “around” for almost 20 years! No, they’re the ones with the special girl pass.
I feel annoyed and frustrated by the pervasive clique of the group. And for all the other reasons I feel disrespected.
The woman said she has other issues with her relationship with her partner and feels spending time with her ex without telling him just gives her more reason to doubt him.
She said: “My partner and I have young children, no family support and we struggle a lot from time to time and are on the verge of divorce (like now because of the latest issue). He pays me very little attention, is always whining and critical and hardly there is some attraction between us.. I trust him as much as I trust any partner, but I also know that the boundaries are probably strained.
“When he decided to come forward on Monday, I gave him a huge emotional hug, which was so weird because we never do that now. He left the stag WhatsApp group on Sunday morning and was quiet all day. He was trying to do all the right things and I half believe him.
“I just can’t get him out of my head. I wish his ex would go away.
“I’m not going to the wedding in May because I’m taking care of our kids (who aren’t invited). And since I don’t have a good family to help me, I’m really glad I’m not going. They’re far from my friends.”
Commenters on the post were divided, while some accused the woman of “overreacting”, while others said the man’s behavior after the deer seemed “suspicious” because they were wondering if something had happened.
One person said: “I think you’re overreacting, at least about the stag. Sorry.”
However, another disagreed, stating: “An ex-stag is no big deal, but his reaction – leaving the WhatsApp group, hugging and getting emotional – is very suspicious.”
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