I’m tired of sliding, I want to find true love
Written by Emma Spear
The beginning of 2023, and also the year of singleness. I know that love is not the most important thing in the world, but for me it is very good.
I love the idea of love, of finding that person you want to spend forever with, but until now I’ve had no luck in that area.
I’m someone who wants a relationship and I feel like guys these days just want to get together and if that doesn’t happen they’ll walk you out.
How lame can you be? Seriously?
When did it get to the point where people only want get-togethers and one-night stands? What happened to people who want real relationships that lead to something meaningful?
It seems like everyone is so worn down by past relationships that they no longer know how to approach those they are attracted to.
I was talking to my boyfriend the other day and he suggested a dating app, and let me say it loud and clear to anyone reading this: I’m over dating apps.
Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Plenty of Fish – I’ve heard it all. You swipe these people (and it’s the same people on all apps; we all have the same idea) and half the time they either don’t start a conversation, choose not to answer, or think I’m a catfish (which I don’t understand).
And the pairing process starts all over again when I tell another guy that my favorite color is yellow and I can only do that for so long before I delete the app from my phone.
This whole digital dating thing is not for me. I want to find love, but I can’t find it on an app because I swiped right or sent a message first. Not for me.
The thing is, we don’t use apps, people seem to only use them for dating; we’re all so engrossed in our phones and texting that we don’t pay attention to those around us.
I thought I could find love at school and no one talks to each other. I work and Betty wants to set me up with her granddaughter who has long hair, lives with her parents and plays video games all day.
I just want to find a decent guy who loves me and will give me his sweater. Why is this so hard to find?
You can’t say that all the good guys are kidnapped, because it can’t, it can’t be true. I know a lot of great guys, but they’re dumb and when I try to flirt, it goes over their heads.
I feel like my Prince Charming is pulling a door that you should be pushing, wondering why the door won’t open. I just want someone to get it on the first try.
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I know love takes time and I know it will all be worth it in the end, but if my man would open his eyes and open the door for us, that would be great. Because here I am on the other side of the door, waiting for it to open.
I see other people with their persona all the time and that’s great, but I want my persona to be here too. That is all.
Emma Spear is a student, para-educator, writer and contributor to Unwritten. She is passionate about writing about mental health, self-care and education.
This article originally appeared on Unwritten. Reprinted with permission of the author.