Blocked for Male Date after asking to share account
Traditionally, the norm was for men to pay for dinner dates with women they were interested in. In relation to changing gender roles, there was confusion over who was responsible for paying for the first date between a man and a woman, causing conflict between potential lovers. .
One man found out firsthand that when it comes to showing a woman that she’s interested, you can never make assumptions.
In a since-deleted Reddit post, the man shared that he recently met a young lady on Tinder and “swiped right” to indicate his interest in her.
Apparently he did as well, and before he knew it, they had arranged their first date. Since she didn’t know where to go, he sent her a menu from a restaurant she knew, and she confirmed she was interested.
According to him, their first date went off without a hitch… until the bill arrived.
Although they didn’t talk about it before the date, she thought they were going to split the bill, but she was under the impression that she would be paying for the date.
The man admitted that he was the one who suggested the restaurant and knew it was expensive, but thought his Tinder match would have predicted it if it was out of his price range.
The Redditor asked him how the check will be split when it arrives. She told him that she lives with her parents and earns minimum wage, so she can’t afford expensive meals. Although annoyed, he paid the full bill.
Later that night, she punished him for embarrassing her at the restaurant.
In response, the man apologized but told her not to expect someone to pay for a meal that she had chosen but didn’t have the money to cover. This statement prompted the humiliated woman to block him, ending any chance of a second date.
Since the disastrous date, the conservative Casanova has taken to his fellow Redditors to find out if he mishandled the situation and shouldn’t have asked the woman to help pay for the meal.
Although the original post has been removed, commenters believe it was a clear misunderstanding.
The first person wrote: “ESH simply because you both made assumptions. You should not assume that you will split the bill. He shouldn’t have assumed he would pay. I’m speaking as a woman here, if I ask someone out on a date I would assume I’m paying for the whole thing. I would go somewhere inexpensive for the first date.
According to the queen of etiquette, Emily Post, the woman is right. On the first date, the person who asked must pay, unless both parties previously agreed otherwise.
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NyRee Ausler is a writer from Seattle, Washington and the author of seven books. It covers lifestyle, entertainment and news, as well as workplace navigation and social issues.